AFTER SEX… WHAT NEXT?

 

 

“We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love”…Tom Robbins.

I was going to create a somewhat censor of the three letter word at first, but then I thought, embracing reality doesn’t only seduce people to level with you, it encourages them relate to you as well, so much for partnership gaining a new meaning.

How controversial can a word be?

Sex has been used to describe very numerously negative scenarios so much that it’s easiest attributes are of dirt, sin and even perhaps vaguely “death”.

It however appears more confusing than surprising especially for young minds how a seemingly uncontrollable natural chemical reaction which easily seduces one to release a great burst of energy can yet bear power potent enough to bring mankind to a halt, forcing man to fall to his knees in an instant

A school of thought teaches that in the earliest times, in the very historical story of the beautiful Garden of Eden, the forbidden fruit that was eaten by Adam and Eve was not actually consumed orally, rather there was a vigorous copulation between the duo. Thus summarising that the whole world is in this present predicament of turmoil because of a sex which shouldn’t have been had.

In the world of today, apart from the fact that sex has literally come to stay (Typically) at an alarming rate actually, the modern generation apparently are more open for business than ever before, remember “sex sells” in billions.  

 

“Sex without love is as hollow and ridiculous as love without sex”…Hunter S. Thompson.

 

Biologically and obviously, sex was practically invented (There's got to be a better word) for man to procreate, and well, as well as for pleasurable co-existence between couples. 

Today, sex is not as seemingly sacred it was treated long ago, it is now grossly abused so much that prostitution is one of the highest grossing revenues of all time, unfortunately though, beyond the bottom line is a huge price left for man to pay.

There are over twenty types of STDs one can get from sex, with the frontliner being HIV/AIDS causing millions of deaths each year. 

Risks of more sexual predicaments including single parenting and child mortality has highly increased with the aftermath of youth freedom engaging in sexual experimentation. Also perhaps due to deprivation, disillussioned hundreds have been consumed by a dark and hurting negative stereotype of percieved sadistic pleasure derivable from rape, making rape a serious crime and one of the top 5 crimes of restless youths.

This unceremoniously brings us to the question “After sex, what next?” seriously. Yes there have been countless researches that justify the ‘fact’ that developed nations have been able to properly control indiscriminate sex, consisting of a massive build up of great sense of belonging and high self esteem among the citizenry, especilly through provision of social amenities and protection or rather non-interference with natural elements such as air and water which support life, in high standard at that. The envirenment both physical and virtual are sort of stable and predictable that one can plot his or her life trajectory assuming all factors are constant.

 

“Sex is an emotion in motion”…Mae West

Funds are also well managed especially to create adequate awareness, orientation and counselling as the case may be. So much for carefree corruption in the so called ‘Developing Nations’.

The inability for third world countries to confront their problems head-on, also known as cowardice has birthed a whole lot of avoidable and hypocritical stigmas, restricting our potential joys to a minute and virtual box in our heads. The poverty stricken ones basically throw caution to the wind, careless due to the presence of insecurity, inferiority and uncertainty, resulting in high population of fatherless kids and exploding rate of diseases hardly well managed. To add salt to injury, the corruptible and visionless leaders also constantly rape the national treasury, making them so poor that all they have is money in a new world where content, character, opportunity and succession plan rings more bells than the Big Ben.

Even marriages have become controversial than ever as divorce rates on pie charts makes pies and pizzas look less attractive. Many couples are getting married for the wrong reasons such as sexual appeal, money, height, swag, seriously? 

Unfortunately, the value system of the entire system whose root emanates from the nucleus known as the family mostly bears the blame, yet we fail to address the issues before our very eyes.

Fascinatingly, a start to rectify these issues are easy, simply by we being reminded of the truths we already know, “whatever you have to do, do it quickly, and do it well”, “Never give up”, “go the extra mile” etc…

“The difference between Love and sex is that sex relieves tension and love causes it”…Woody Allen.

Sex will always be a complex thing to deal with, there will always be prostitutes, rapists, paedophiles, sexual harrasment, fatherless children, STDs, broken marriages, not that I am a prophet of doom, but more like an advocate of reality, and the picture as we venture into the future might actually get less obscure when we like a soldier face the troubles, facts and battles before our very eyes. Girls are always looking for the perfect man, tall, dark, rich, romantic and bla bla bla, but they want to go dance all night at the club, dead drunk from incorrigible binge drinking and they seduce their boyfriends with sex thinking it’s a way to hold him down. Eventually the so called dream guy ditches them to marry a decent and possibly timid lady that can keep a home, take care of the kids and can be confided in. 

After sex what next? Sex should just be an integral element of love and not an indulgent act by boys and girls.

 

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Thanks,

Akin Abimbola (akinzogee@gmail.com)